What The Quiet Says

Fifteen weeks ago, Jason started this show with a framework and a mission. 

What he didn't expect: a baseball stadium anniversary, a daughter leaving for Alaska, and a realtor named Lori who asked the right question. This is not a recap. It's a reckoning.

In this episode, we cover...
- FREEDOM OF SPEECH:  "What the Quiet Says
- FROM THE NEWSFEED:  "The Review Nobody Takes"
- FAITH & HOPE: "One Year Ago This Week"
- FATHER TIME: "Every Minute Was Good"
- FUNNY FACTORY: "Reflection Accessories"
- FITNESS MINUTE: "What Your Body Taught You"

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Recently, a woman named Lori, a realtor, put together an intimate event, and then the next morning without being asked, sent one of the most generous testimonials I've ever received. And it raised one question. When is the last time you shared the good review? With the same urgency, you share a complaint. Your faith, this show, the thing that changed your life. Lori didn't wait. That is a discipline worth building, talking about and sharing here with you. You know, 15 weeks ago, I sat down and told you I was starting a show. I had a framework, six pillars, a mission statement, a tagline. Remember, lots of F words, right? Faith, family, freedom, fatherhood, fitness, all those. I was ready. What I wasn't ready for was what this was actually going to cost and what it was going to give back. In the episode since, a 15-year-old boy is gone, my son's dear friend. His absence made things real that had been theoretical to me. A whale appeared off Cabo when our family almost didn't go. A silent room, or in other words, a room that was talking so much I couldn't tell if they were with me. Well, that taught me more about who I am than two standing ovations ever did. And somewhere between January and April, something changed in me. Today I'm doing what Lori did, sharing the good review out loud. This is episode 15. We're not recapping. We're reckoning. Welcome. All right. Let's come up with well, let's talk about what's coming up on the show. Freedom of speech first. We're going to talk about what the quiet says, the loudest leader stay stuck. We're diving into the discipline of silence and what I found when the algorithm stopped talking. From the newsfeed, we'll talk about the review nobody takes. You've filed your Q1 business reports, but have you audited your soul? Whoa. Why the person review is the one that actually changes the business and leaving the good review instead of just the negative ones? We'll talk about that. In Faith and Hope, one year ago this week, a stadium, a sing-along, and Dave Butler. I'm looking back at a moment that didn't just fade, it multiplied. In Father Time, every minute was good. From a solo trip to see a Japanese guitar legend to a flight for Alaska. Here's the honest report on the month. My world traveling eldest daughter came back and spent at home. And the funny factory. We're talking reflection accessories, a roast of the dusty journals and$12.99 meditation apps. We buy to feel like we're growing without doing the work. And then the fitness minute. We're brought to you every single week by Cardio Miracle as the world's finest nitric oxide and vitamin D3 supplement. What your body taught you. Forget the scale. Your body keeps a more honest record of your promises than your brain does. Let's look at the data. Let's jump into the show. Fear is not a travel agent. It doesn't know your family, it doesn't know what's on the other side of the decision. My kids will not remember the 17 travel blogs, Presence of the Promise. This is the Jason Hewlett Show. Let's talk about the freedom of speech. What the quiet says. Here's the paradox nobody's talking about. The louder the world gets, the more we perform. More content, more output, more motion. The algorithm rewards it. Social feed punishes stillness and irrelevance. You know this. If you're like me, you're posting frantically, and I realized so much more. I need to be commenting, I need to be interacting. But the leaders who are actually growing aren't the loudest ones, however. They're the ones who've built a consistent, honest practice of going quiet and confronting what they find. Did you hear what I said? They're the ones who've built a consistent, honest practice of going quiet and confronting what they find. Not meditation as a productivity hack, reflection as genuine reckoning. Such as, what did I get wrong? What surprised me? What do I actually believe now that I didn't six months ago? This is not a comfortable practice, just so you're aware. When is the last time you actually just sat with yourself, took the earbuds out, and stopped listening to Spotify or a podcast? Bill Gates, whether you love him or not, he takes think weeks. Have you heard of this? Twice a year, alone in a cabin. No meetings, just thinking. Bill Gates just sits there. I find that interesting. It's kind of comical. What is he sitting there? I don't know. McKinsey research on high-performing leaders consistently services a shared habit. Deliberate quarterly review. Not planning. Review. Most leaders skip this. Not because they don't believe it, but because what you find when you go quiet isn't always what you hoped. The gap between who you said you were and who you actually are, the promises you bent. So reflection and rumination are different things. Rumination is the same loop with no exit, it poisons. Reflection extracts what's true and decides what to carry forward. It heals, same silence, different intent. So here's what I heard with my reflection. Fifteen weeks have changed me since I started this show. Not here's what I learned, but here's what's different. This show actually has changed since it first started. If you want to go back and watch the first episode, I'm proud of all the episodes we've done, but they're continuing to change. I always have to laugh about when I first watched Conan O'Brien doing his show versus five years later when you see the difference in the episodes, or even the first season of The Simpsons compared to the seasons five to ten down the road. It's it's like a different show. And the show changed, this show changed how I think about performance. You know, I started this show for many reasons, and one of them is that I'm mostly on stage, and I want to get better at being on a camera. And I think that this is the medium that I need to be improving at every single chance I get. And so I'm forcing myself to do this. It's a it's a pain in a lot of ways, but that's a promise. And I'm grateful I have an amazing team that handles so much and helps me create ideas and content and putting the assets together and making this happen. And they mostly they hold me accountable to make sure that I'm here on time and that I don't just quit because a show didn't go perfect. I don't know if any of them have yet because I'm here. But think about that. This show's changed how I think about performance. I mean, I started with a mission and a version of myself that I was presenting to you, and somewhere around episode nine or ten, I don't know, it cracked open. Um, pillar five, as I would call it, character over performance. I said it out loud, and I had to sit with the fact that I'd been performing a character more than living it. And something shifted for me, and I'm I hope that you're noticing that because I'm going to continue to get more comfortable and more in your face and hopefully funnier, and all the things that I wanted to bring to this, rather than just spitting out the content well and giving you something to think about, laugh about, watch. I want this to be something that moves you to action. And the show changed how I think about home. In episode 13, we talked about how I was wrong, those three words I was wrong. That's one of the hardest things I've written in a while because uh the research, not because the research was hard, but because it kept pointing back to my own kitchen and the reality of the things I'm avoiding saying when I'm wrong. And at moments I'd gotten wrong with people who already knew I was wrong and loved me anyway. I had to go home and say the words before I could say them here. So the show changed how I think about grief as well. Our our friend Xander, 15-year-old boy, he passed away in April, um, one of my son's best friends. His absent hit somewhere theoretical, and uh things had never reached that point for my son. And Easter arrived the same week. So I had to decide, you know, how do we teach this? How do we make sure that we truly believe what we say we believe about Easter? Is it real? Do we think Christ lives again? Do we think that the tomb was empty? Do we believe that we'll all be resurrected and saved? Well, when a kid passes away, it makes you rethink. And I believe it even more. I believe it harder now than in in January, even though in January I had a strong faith. It's I think it's not in spite of the grief, but because of it. And the shows changed what I'm willing to say in the quiet. You know, the version I imagined in January was polished and produced, and and we worked hard every week to do like AI-generated assets that were B-roll and real time, and we were trying characters that were coming together that we created that we wanted to integrate. And the more we showed people what we were trying to do, the more pushback we got to say, we just want you to talk to us. We want, we just want you, Jason, um, talking with us, performing, or being honest. This is a different medium for me than being on a big stage. And so the version I imagined in January, polished and all that, it's changed. And every hard week made it more honest instead. Seeing a whale in Mexico jumping out of the water, we actually saw two at the same time. It was like a double rainbow, but it was double whales. It was incredible. How about the episode where I shared about the terrible room I performed for after two standing ovations at two great events? Then I show up and I have a dud. We talked about the 15-year-old sweet boy Xander. The how about the TSA agents without a paycheck? Yeah, they finally are starting to get paid again. Gosh, but they showed up. Every week I sat down to perform and talk about these things and just ended up just telling the truth. And that's what the quiet says. The truth is better than the performance every time. And to be candid with you, uh, it's hard for me to go there because I'm used to just making you laugh or sing along or have a fun time. And in essence, it's really different for me to just say, okay, let's talk about the truth. Let's see if anyone will stick around, if there is any eyeballs watching at all. So the question for you is, what has this year actually cost you so far? And has it been worth it? I mean, what do you believe now that you didn't believe six months ago? Are you going quiet to hear yourself or to avoid yourself? I hope you'll find a quiet place, whether it's in the car for a minute, maybe it's your commute for 15 to 30 minutes a day. Turn off the radio. Don't listen to anything but your own mind. It's a great practice. What is the one true thing you keep not saying out loud? As we transition, the quiet say things the noise can never say, and if you want proof, the business world just started talking about this. So, from the newsfeed, right after this. Nobody takes in the newsfeed. Yeah, it's the end of April. Here we are, April 30th. Whoa, man alive. Quarter one is done. Every business leader I know has either filed a quarter one review or is about to. And uh, you know, you probably should have done it a couple of weeks ago, but it's uh revenue against projection, it's customer acquisition costs, it's pipeline coverage, you know all these things. However, Harvard Business Review research is clear. It says leaders who build formal mid-year review practices significantly outperform outperform those who don't. So if you're putting together a mid-year review, it's going to completely revamp and and amplify your performance. Review surfaces the gap between intention and reality. Well, there's still time to adjust. So do that. Sit down quietly, just go through it. But here's the review most leaders don't take. What did quarter one cost your marriage? Eee. What did quarter one cost your health? Okay. Yeah, we're getting deep here, right? What did it reveal about your character under pressure? I know in our business, Cardio Miracle, we've we've had some crazy stuff happening. People are trying to get us booted off of e-commerce sites, and uh, we're we're having just weird stuff happening with social media and other things, and some software, and you know what did it say about your character when things don't go right? Almost no one can answer these. The culture of business review has no equivalent for the personal. The metrics exist for the company, and the honest accounting almost never happens for the person running it. So the company review and the personal review are not separate. Your marriage affects your decision making in business, your body affects your patience in the workplace. The gap between what you project and what you actually do affects everything. You cannot compartmentalize your leadership. That's why I wrote the book, The Promise to the One, because it starts with yourself. The promises that you make and keep to you are the ones that are going to drive your ability to keep a promise to your clients, your customers, your audience, your family, your team at work, etc., etc. So here's my challenge. Do the personal review first. You're gonna do the quarterly one, great, but do the personal review first. Before Q2 planning, before the strategic off-site, before the retreat with everybody, three questions. What did the last season cost you personally? What did it build? And what did you say you believed about priorities, family, faith, that calendar doesn't match? Oh man. Right? That's a hard one. We have a practice in our faith called attending the temple. The temple's not somewhere you go on a Sunday. It's where you go the other six days of the week to do work. Ah. As I look back, I'm like, how much did I do that in the last quarter? Not enough. Those are the harsh realities when work gets in the way. If I look at the quarterly review, I can say, oh, I did all this great work, but what about the personal and the the faith and the family side, the health side? Business will be fine. The personal review is the one that changes the business. Absolutely. And let's talk about the last time that you left a good review instead of a bad review. Let's just do that. This might be even simpler than sitting with yourself and having a review. Maybe just do something good today. Let's talk about uh the bad review. I mean, I believe the world is chronically obsessed with leaving bad reviews when something goes terrifically wrong. I have to tell everybody this is the worst restaurant I've ever eaten at. You're never gonna get our business again. I'm gonna go on Yelp and Google and tell everybody. Or Amazon. If you when you go to Amazon, you go to the product first, and then do you even care what the price is? No, you skip right down to the testimonials and you're like, what's the one stars about? I know I do that. All right. So where are the reviews about things when the promise is kept and goes perfectly right? Where are those reviews you're rushing to offer and type in? Well, today I took some time and I did a good chunk of my day on Google, Amazon, and LinkedIn writing uplifting and positive recommendations and reviews for others. That was a good practice for me. And that actually helped me to get ready for this show so that I could say, okay, I'm gonna review my my year, I'm gonna reflect, I'm gonna check it out, make sure I'm personally good because uh because it's good for the soul to do this, because it's uh it floors the receiver. So business would want business owners, especially small business owners, are watching that. And it's the right thing to do. I mean, I have far fewer bad reviews that I've ever left for any company or experience than I do good reviews. I don't know how you're at where you're at, and I'm not judging you, but I would recommend maybe start leaving some good reviews for good experiences, having been the recipient of kind reviews. I mean, it's truly something that can lift and make your day. So I want to tell you about a new friend. Let me show you a picture of her. Her name is Lori. Lori Fleming. She's uh over this great group called the Logan Realtors up in uh Cash Valley, Utah. And she contacted me. She had, well, almost no budget. And you know, as a speaker or performer, it's always like, How much money do you have? And then they tell you, and you go, Well, I guess I can not make a living anymore. But here's the thing she asked in such a nice way. I I don't think anyone's asked me this perfectly in a in a kind, humble way, like Lori in a long time. It was such a good ask that I how could I not do this for her? And she was referred to me by my friend Cheryl, and I was told it was going to be a great event. There wasn't even a hundred people, but she treated me like a I was royalty. And she was so nervous that no one would show up for this important event and that it would disappoint me, even though she was trying to get people to attend, and it was important to her. They had to set up more chairs than planned because her execution of promotion was so excellent. And so this is Lori. Her name's Lori Fleming, great woman. We finally got to meet after months and months of texts and emails and calls, and finally got to give her a big hug, and she is even more incredible in person. What a great human being. She actually doesn't even live where she serves this group. She just does it because uh I believe they said nobody else does. And so, what a gal. The next day after my gig for this group, it was a small group. It was actually pretty tough to be candid because it was like going back in time in my career, like starting over. But it was a good experience, I can tell you. Um, one of the gifts, one of the greatest gifts someone can like me can get is a review on LinkedIn, Facebook, or Instagram. And from Lori, what I got unprompted, here it is. I'll show you on the side. There I am. I don't know if you can read that because these screens are tricky, but I'm just gonna read it to you anyway. It was just a kind thing of of her to do for me. And I was blown away. Here's what she wrote Jason Hewlett absolutely brought the house down at our Cash Valley Association Realtors RPAC major donors event on April 6th, let me tell you. He didn't just meet expectations, he ran them over like a realtor late to a showing. That's a great line. He promised to bring joy and wow, did he deliver? From the moment he stepped on stage, we were laughing, singing, wondering if he accidentally booked five performers instead of one. His impressions, spot on, his music, incredible, his energy, somewhere between rock concert and how is he still going? At one point, I looked around the room and thought, yep, this is what happens when you bring a bunch, put a bunch of realtors in chairs and don't let them talk. We laugh extra loud. And they were, they were a good laughing crowd. What I loved most is that it wasn't just entertainment, it was connection. In a room full of hardworking realtors, you gave us a chance to laugh, recharge, and forget about contracts, deadlines, group text that start with per my last email. Jason, you didn't just perform, you created an experience we won't forget. Cash Valley may not be a stadium crowd, but you sure made it feel like one. And I'm pretty sure half of us left thinking we now have hidden musical talents. We do not. There she is, my friends, Lori Fleming. What a gal. My kind of client. Do the personal review for yourself, leave a good review for others, find the gap, and when Ready to hear what you've been missing. Uh, I'm gonna tell you in the next section as we wrap this one up about a night in a baseball stadium over one year ago this week. We're going into Faith and Hope right after this. All right, Faith and Hope, welcome. One year ago this week. Uh it was a it was a new baseball stadium opened in my neighborhood. Yeah, we actually have uh a really good team here, and it we live in Daybreak, Utah, which is in the city of South Jordan. It's in the it's just south of Salt Lake City, about a 20-minute drive. And this team moved from downtown Salt Lake right into our neighborhood. Crazy. They opened a beautiful big stadium. I was the first one they called to help them with the grand opening and an event that was put together. Um, and and I want to tell you about it. I was I was asked to MC this celebration, and it was very unique. It was the first of its kind, I believe, in Utah. It was multi-faith, non-denominational, gathered around the person of Christ. Yes, our Lord and Savior. Let me show you the let me show you the picture. This is the picture of me on the big screen. This is very cool. It was called Why I Believe. And uh inside a brand new stadium smelled like fresh concrete and possibilities. It was awesome. In fact, here I'm gonna walk you around for just a sec, just on the baseball field, so you can see how cool it was. Hopefully, you can hear this video. Well, guess where I am? Yeah, buddy. I'm on the field at the ballpark at America First Square. Yeah, look at this. This is a real grass. Aha. They're expecting a full house, which is a full stadium of 8,000 people. We'll see if they all show. There's a band warming up. It's gonna be a fun night. Hope to see some folks here. Fun to find this footage because it was a year ago, like I say. So it's interesting to see that. But also, that this was just a special place. There were singers, speakers, preachers. It was there was a sing-along that ran way too long, longer than anyone planned, because no one wanted to stop. I've been involved in a lot of events in my life, and this was one of the most memorable that I've done in a long time. Uh, this guy was there. These two guys. Um, Mr. Dave Butler. And along with Hello Saints Evangelical uh pastor, Christian pastor, Jeff McCullough. So what Jeff McCullough does, he's the guy in the middle. He does uh he actually is an evangelical Christian pastor, and he talks about the you know the differences between evangelical Christian and the LDS, uh known as the Mormon Church. So he's a very interesting character, and I mean he's a wonderful guy, he's very fair, and he says really nice things. What we've tried to do is you know, bridge the gap with the the the Christian community and the evangelical community and the Latter-day Saint community, and this is part of doing that. And my man Dave Butler, he's the guy in the white hat that's the Utah upside down there. This was the post that I shared online because I was just so thrilled to be a part of this. These guys are way famous, like compared to me, they're they're uh very much bigger in terms of following and influence, and so it was neat to meet them. I was the MC, they were the speakers. So if you don't know Dave Butler, the guy in the far right, he's one of the finest gospel teachers alive. And uh if you haven't heard of him, you should check him out. He's got the Don't Miss This podcast, which is astoundingly good. He does that with Grace Freeman and then uh and she's Darling, and and they're both so powerful when they speak. They have the good news brand. Let me show you. The good news brand is really special as well. They they're on their don't miss this, they've also got uh these Old Testament study guides. We're studying the Old Testament in our uh religion right now, and he created this with a lady named Emily Bell Freeman, who is Grace's mom, and she's one of the leaders and general authorities of our church. So they're quite the awesome group. I have all these materials. Don't miss this, the Old Testament. This is obviously from episode uh 13. We talked about Moses parting the Red Sea. There's the walking across the Red Sea. It they're just uh Dave Butler's as good as it gets. That's all I'm saying. And the way Dave opens scripture makes you lean forward, and I gotta spend a real time, uh, real time with him that day. Not an not a hallway handshake, it was actual conversation. We had a meal, it was a kind of you know, time that changes something. I even got a cell, and now we're actually pals, and he spreads joy about scripture, the way Lori, who I just told you about, the realtor, she spreads joy about a great experience with urgency because it's worth telling. Here's what I've been thinking about for a year. What stays with me isn't the spectacle, it's simpler. It's uh the moment when a stadium full of people from different backgrounds were singing the same words and nobody wanted it to end, all praising Jesus together. It was a beautiful thing. Joy share doesn't diminish, it multiplies what you give away. You don't lose, you make more of it. Reflection asked this. The question isn't only what this season costs you, it's where were you most alive? And you know, as I look back on those photos in that ballpark, let me show you them again. Here I am on the big screen in front of a lot of people, and and then this photo I found uh really brought joy to my soul. Those five boys, four of them are gone right now, they're on their missions. Uh it's unbelievable that they've been out this long. The front two are uh Elder Swiss and Elder England, both in Peru and Chile. And then my son Redford and friend Harry. Yep, that's Elder Sw uh Elder Quayley and Elder Hewlett. Elder Hewlett's in Argentina, Elder Quayley in Japan. And there's Romney, my son, uh, who's leaving on his mission in Guatemala in a couple of months. Now, you know it's interesting to think that it was a year ago and these guys were all together and now they're gone. Wow. I'm so grateful for the time that we all had together. I'm so thankful for their service. I'm so proud of them. And so, one answer is this What makes you feel most alive? One answer could be a night in a new baseball stadium, a sing along that ran over time. Dave Butler teaching ancient things like they just arrived. That's how he teaches the Old Testament. What a guy. A year later, it's it's bigger, not smaller. That is what happens to moments you actually lived in. So as we transition out of this one into the father time, joy shared multiples. A year ago this week, I was in a stadium full of it. Tomorrow, there's someone leaving for Alaska. Oh, and I don't. Well, I want to make sure I say this out loud because we're gonna talk father time right after this. So let me tell you about my beautiful daughter Ella Ray. I've spoken about her in the past. Let me show a photo of my family. She's the one in the front on the bench. Beautiful 20-year-old girl. She's done a lot since she graduated from high school almost two years ago. She's been around the world. She's been an au pair in New Zealand, she's been an au pair in uh Italy. She's worked at Sun Valley, Idaho ski resort. And yeah, she's leaving again. But she came home for a month. And while she's been home, she's done everything she possibly can to be busy and see friends and do fun things. And and then recently she went on a trip to Disney with some people she didn't even know other than one of them, and uh had a good time. But while she was there, she realized one of the greatest artists in her scope of people that she loves is performing in LA while she's just right near there. And so all the other girls left and drove home from LA to Utah. My daughter bought herself a ticket, bought herself an Uber, bought herself a hotel room, stayed there alone. She's just funny. She's uh she's awesome. She's 20. She's been doing this now for two years. She went to see this guy that you may not have ever heard of, but you may have heard his music. His name is Masayoshi Takanaka. I hope I said that right. Because he's amazing. She took this photo of him, and he's a 73-year-old guitarist, the Santana of Japan, if you will. He's one of the greatest living guitarists. He's a musician's musician, and Ella, our daughter, found him, and her brothers love him too. The brothers were freaked that she went to this without him. And so she tracked down the show, bought a ticket, went there alone. So I'm gonna show you some of the videos she took just so you can hear this guy's music. It's like jazz, Japanese fusion, just fun, and uh, she had the time of her life. Like I say, she went alone. Here's one of the videos. So hopefully you can hear this. It's a little low because she was recording it on her camera. It goes like this. So here on the left is a picture of her taking a selfie. She stuck around till the very end as they cleaned up the whole the whole Hollywood Palladium or whatever it's called, and and it was a great time. She had his she had so much fun. This picture on the right, she just took it yesterday as uh she's she's going to be doing some other service in the future, and so we're very excited about that. But here's what I love so much about it is that when it comes to my beautiful daughter, she goes for it. She goes after it. She does incredible things, she is so funny, and she's brilliant. She came home for exactly a month, and uh yeah, she she went on this little concert, and I it just reminded me that yeah, she's her own bird, she's just gonna go do that. She was she was here with us. We had meals together, late conversations, ordinary things that aren't ordinary when you know they're running out. And tomorrow, May 1st, she leaves for Alaska with a company called Kara Aloha. They're a Utah-based company that operates across cruise ships worldwide or stops, cruise stops worldwide, and she's gonna be excellent at it. If you don't know Kara Aloha, great company. They have the bamboo sheets and clothes, and they're awesome. So I already know she's going to be their best employee because that's what she does. And here's what I want to say before she goes every minute was good. Not every minute was significant, you know. Not every minute was a conversation worth putting on this show, but every minute, the dinners, the late conversation, the time she sat in the kitchen while I worked on this script, every minute was good. Worth saying out loud, not just feeling, but saying. So the honest end of season accounting. The minutes with the people you love cannot be rescheduled. They are happening right now and then they're done. Ella flies out tomorrow. And gone for the summer. Gonna be full and free and have a great time. I will miss her greatly. She is my sweet girl, and every minute was good with her. That's the whole review. We'll miss our darling girl. There's an entire industry built on the premise that you can capture the feeling of presence without actually being present. And as we jump into the funny factory, that's what we're gonna talk about and laugh about next, right after this. Alright, let's talk about the funny factory reflection accessories. Let's talk about the reflection economy first. There's a booming industry dedicated to helping you feel like you're doing self-improvement. Yeah, you know what I'm talking about. If you're a chronic uh training person, I know there are people that do like 10 self-help events per year. It's like maybe do one and just apply it, and that's probably enough. But no, they're going to conference every month. Okay. Whatever fluts your boat. But then there's this, you know, this feeling like you're doing some self-improvement without requiring you to actually do anything. It's a magnificent achievement of capitalism, and I have contributed to it personally as well. Uh, the first one, the journal. You ever bought a journal? Yeah, you bought it. You bought it in January. Beautiful cover, thick pages, smells like intention. Oh, yeah, I'm gonna do all these things well. You have now, you know, here we are, quartering in. You're looking back. You have three entries. January 1st. This year I will become the person I have always known I could be. I will rise early, I will be present. Three pages of ambition and promises. January 2nd. Already feel great about this. I welcome it. February 14th. Hmm. Sorry, I haven't written. Things got busy. This is still a priority. Happy Valentine's Day. March through the present. The journal watches you from the nightstand. You've started using it as a coaster. Hey, thanks, journal. It's like the treadmill with the clothes all over it, right? Who needs hangers when you got a treadmill in your room? Well, I don't know if you're like that, but honestly, maybe I'm the opposite. I I so I'm gonna just throw this one on uh flip it for a second because I uh I write in my journal maybe the opposite of what I'm referring to. In fact, I just realized when I was writing this, like this whole segment today, that I have now penned since January 19th, 2026. That's the day I started this journal. I have now penned 121 pages of my journal for this year. I think maybe that's too many. There can be both extremes. Look at this. I I write in it almost every day, and I love it. But I don't know about you. Are you keeping your promise to write in the journal? Let's do one that I failed at. The meditation app. You downloaded in February, used it twice. The second time you fell asleep during the breathing exercise, you woke up 40 minutes later with your phone on your face. You still pay$12.99 a month. Yeah. Not because you meditate, but because canceling it would be admitting you're not a person who meditates. So the subscription is for the idea of peace of mind. These are different products. How about the vision board? Have you done one of those? You made it in January. You cut up all the magazine um pictures of things you want to do and buy and become. You did the whole thing. It's now currently facing the wall. Not because you gave up, because you couldn't figure out where to hang it. And then weeks passed, and now looking at it requires confronting the gap between January's ambition and April's reality. Self-protective. How about the Spanish app or the language app? How's that working out for you? Algato esta en la biblioteca. Well, good job. You practice two days. That's gonna come in real handy on your next trip to Mexico. Asking, hey, is there a cat in the library? All right. I'm guilty of all these, that's so they're funny to me. How about the word of the year? That's one of my favorites. You chose one in January. You cannot remember it. Was it intentional? Did I say aligned? Maybe it was grounded. I need to take my shoes off and walk around barefoot more. Yeah, if you saw it written somewhere, you'd definitely remember it. But what's your word? The annual review written on 11 58 p.m. December 31st. Oh, slightly tired, calling it intentional. 12 minutes of reflection, box checked. Yeah. There's a difference and a meaningful difference between reflection and buying reflection accessories. That's what these are. One requires you to go quietly and honestly confront what you find. The other requires a credit card. Both are popular. Only one works. So how do you keep the promise in that situation? Hopefully better than me. As we transitioned out of this one, I hope it made you laugh a little bit and think, but reflection accessories are optional. Actual reflection is required. And the most honest record you have of this year isn't in a journal with three entries. It's actually in your body. Woo! Fitness minute. Head after this. And as we lean into the fitness minute, we are brought to you by Cardio Miracle. This is the world's greatest nitric oxide product and vitamin D3 supplement. I'm proud to be not only a person involved with this company, it's my dad's company. It's also a product that I tell everybody about. And it's very rare for me to have anyone ever say, hey, this didn't work for me. And if it didn't, they get their money back. That's what's nice about this product. And so um let's talk about fitness and what your body's taught you. End of the season, not the beginning. We spend most of our fitness energy on starting, like new year, new streak. What we almost never do is stop and ask what the season actually produced. I mean, not in numbers, but in information. Not the scale, not the PR. Here's the question. What has your body actually taught you this year about who you are? The places you push through when you wanted to stop, uh, what does that say? That's the capacity was the capacity was there when you chose to access it, but the places you stopped when you should have pushed, same question, different answer. Neither verdict is permanent, but both are honest. So the discipline you kept, what did it build? You can see it if somebody does it right. Yeah. Every morning you got up. When you didn't want to, you practiced one decision. The promise I made to myself was worth keeping. Okay. That builds something beyond muscle. The identity of someone who keeps promises when no one is watching. The discipline you lost, what did it reveal? Not a verdict, just information. Yeah, you stop for a reason. I mean, maybe the season was too heavy, and maybe the habit was built on motivation rather than character, and motivation ran out. The failure isn't the point. What it shows you about your patterns, your weak points, your excuses feel like reasons. This is the point. The fitness reflection is the personal review. So I want you to look at your self, your body. It's okay. It may not look exactly as you want right now. What needs to change? Uh what can be adjusted? Maybe going to the doctor and and getting a physical is a good idea this year. Maybe taking your blood pressure. If you're my age, I'm almost 50, I guess. I'm 47. Wow. Should I take my blood pressure? Does it matter? Well, yeah, it depends on how I'm feeling, sleeping, exercising, all the things, right? But when it comes down to it, you can you can work out, you can eat right, you can, you know, skimp a little here, you can miss a couple workouts there, it starts to show. And then you start to feel it. It's one thing to show, and it's another thing to feel it. Your body of work is your body, and so how do we keep this sacred temple, which we believe is our body a sacred thing? How do we make sure that we're grateful for it? I think one of the best ways that we can do is to get good rest, do the exercise, take a walk in the sun, find your hobbies and and exercise habits that you enjoy. For me, it's hiking, walking. Um, I'll bike once in a while. I like to swim. I love to ski. I I like to shoot baskets with my sons, I like to work out with my boys, and of course, I Take this cardiomerical. This isn't the only supplement I take. I also take creatine. Don't know if you use creatine, but for me, cardiomerical and some creatine, a little bit of protein shake here and there. All those things add up to make my life better. There's 58 natural ingredients in this great product, and it will change the way that you feel in your health. It ignites what's called nitric oxide in your body. And nitric oxide is a gas that you need, a gas molecule. When you're young, you produce it naturally. As we age, it dissipates. As we get into our 50s, 60s, 70s, you know, our blood flow is tougher, it's compromised. This, when you take a drink of cardiomerical, it goes into your bloodstream, becomes nitric oxide. It's a fascinating thing. It also releases vitamin D3 from your fat cells. If you uh if you've had it in your body for more than 12 hours, that's what's happening. It's a very cool science. And it dilates your blood vessels, allows for greater blood flow, it gives you more energy, gives you the stamina you need, gives you the vasodilation for a great workout, and then equally to recover from the workouts you do. Your body speaks a lot, it says a lot. Look at it, embrace it, be grateful for it, continue to improve it. I know I'm working on it as well, and I wish you the best in that journey. It's a great challenge. But your your body's honest record deserves the best support, and that's where Cardio Miracle comes in. And so, what's your promise? Your body's been keeping track all year. It's worth a few minutes of honest listening and tracking to see what's going on. So, as we wrap up this episode today, let's bring it all home. Fifteen weeks ago, I started this show with a framework and a mission, and here's what I didn't expect. I didn't expect a 15-year-old young man to be gone by April, one of my son's best friends, and his absence to make real what had been theoretical in the things that we had talked about at home. And now it's starting to come to a reality that it's real. Character, identity, joy, faith, these are not concepts. They are what holds when someone who should have had a whole life ahead of him is suddenly not there. The good news has to be true. Not just enough for the easy weeks. You know, I didn't expect to see a whale when we went to Mexico. We almost didn't go. We feared we'd, you know, fear had a very compelling argument because there were things happening in another part of Mexico that scared us. Uh, but a whale showed up when we got there, and my kids watched this in silence and shouting and thought, wow, this is what presence costs and what presence returns show up anyway. Put down your phone, watch, see something special. I didn't expect a a room of people not with me at a gig recently after I got two standing ovations at the other ones, then not being with me at all. I didn't expect this show to make me more accountable at home than any book on leadership probably ever has, but it helped me a lot. And then I didn't expect to sit here on week 15, finally quiet, and hear what the quiet actually says. It says, the performance was never the point, the truth was always better. It says, You were changed by this, not perfected. And so I'm not finished, I'm changed. This is enough. So that's the show today. I appreciate you watching and and or listening. Thank you for your comments, and I apologize if I didn't get to them, but thank you for being a part of this, and equally hope that you'll consider these many things. A baseball stadium one year ago this week, Dave Butler, one of the great teachers of the gospel, a sing-along that ran over, and joy that was multiplied. Ella, my beautiful daughter, who came home for a month and now leaves for Alaska tomorrow. Oh man, we'll miss her. Every minute was good. And Lori, the realtor, who wrote the good review about without even being asked. And every Thursday we share something true. So that's the show. That's what The Quiet says, my friends. I'm Jason Hewlett. This has been the Jason Hewlett Show. We'll see you back here next Thursday. And until then, keep the promise. Have a great day.